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It’s inevitable. 

At some point in your life, you’re bound to have a tough day. 

Most likely you’ll have many hard days.  

Maybe your alarm didn’t wake you up, your boss growled at you, the kids said embarrassing things to a stranger, you broke a dish, the cat threw up in your shoe or someone parked in your parking space. 

There are just some days that make you feel completely miserable.

When you’re having a bad day, use these 8 tips from The Abundance Project to turn things around and refresh your outlook
on life.

Remember that it’s only temporary.
A bad day can consume all of your thoughts, and it might seem like things will never get any better.  Although you’ve likely heard this before, remember that nothing in life is permanent. 

Whatever issues you are dealing with right now, they will probably seem much smaller in just a few days. 

Think back to a bad day you had years ago. 

You’ve overcome those problems since then, and you might even look back at some bad memories with a sense of humor now.  Remember that, just like the saying goes, “this too shall pass.”

 Allow yourself to feel and acknowledge your emotions.
Don’t fight how you’re feeling.

Instead of trying to tell yourself that you’re not sad or upset or angry, give yourself permission to experience those emotions.

Think about not just how you’re feeling but also why you feel that way.  Recognizing and acknowledging your own thoughts and feelings is the first step in the process of eventually feeling better.

It’s completely normal to feel sad or stressed or mad or humiliated sometimes.  It’s perfectly normal to not experience constant bliss.  Distress and adversity is what makes you stronger in life.
 Talk or write it out.
Expressing your feelings can be an effective way of changing your mood.

Find a friendly ear to talk to. 

Good friends will always be there to listen.  Or, use online outlets to get help and encouragement. 

These days, there are online forums for nearly any problem you might have, and you can find people who are dealing with the same issues who are willing to talk. 

If you’re not comfortable sharing your problems with anyone else, try writing your thoughts down for yourself.  It doesn’t even have to be something formal like a journal or diary. Find a piece of scrap paper and jot down why you’re upset. 

Sometimes simply organizing your thoughts out loud or in writing can help you sort through whatever issues are bothering you.
 Distract yourself with good things.

Although it’s a good idea to let yourself fully feel your emotions, sometimes you just want a distraction from a bad day. 

Immerse yourself in something else. 

This could be a good book, game, music, conversation, exercise, video or anything that helps take your mind off of what’s upsetting you. 

One method that many people turn to when they’re not having a good day is to spend some time helping someone else. 

Walk dogs or play with cats at the local animal shelter. 

Sign up to help out with a blood drive. 

Cook and share a meal with someone. 

Helping out your community can give your mind something new on which you can focus entirely, and you’ll be doing a good deed at the same time.
 Think about solutions, but hold off on drastic decisions.
It’s tempting to try to fix your problems right away, but that can sometimes make things even worse. 

If you’re extremely upset, you probably aren’t in the right mindset to think critically and make good decisions. 

Focus on the main problem you are facing, then begin thinking of solutions.  However, don’t write an angry email to your boss or tell your roommate to get lost just yet. 

Write down any solutions that you want to remember, and remind yourself that you can always act on them later when you are feeling more in control. 

This way, you are focusing on making your life better but also saving the drastic actions until you are calmer.
 Go treat yourself to something good
It’s okay to give yourself a little pick-me-up when you’re feeling down, but be careful what kind of things you use as treats. 

Avoid making yourself feel better with addictive, unhealthy habits such as smoking, drinking or drugs. 

Think of something that you won’t regret later but will make you smile now.  Go get a healthy smoothie, or go out to lunch at a favorite restaurant with a friend. 

Try to avoid things that are high in sugar and fat, because they can have the “crash” effect, and your mood may be even worse. 

Stick with something healthy, and you’ll feel much better. 

Plus, if you can get a friend to join you, they can probably help cheer you up and put things in perspective.
 Let go of things you can’t change.
There will always be problems that you cannot fix. 

When you come across something that you feel ruins your day, think about whether it’s something you can control or something that you can never change. 

You can change your own actions and how you react to situations, but you can’t change other people’s actions or outside factors. 

If it’s something that is completely out of your hands, just let it go. 

Of course, this is easy to say and difficult to do.  However, the more you practice letting things go, the easier it becomes.
 Realize that if you change your mood, you just might change your day too.
When you’re upset or under a lot of stress, it’s easy to think that your whole day is ruined. 

However, you’re not obligated to have a terrible day just because a few bad things happened.  Give yourself permission to feel your emotions then move on to something happier.  

The more time you spend moping around, the less time you have to enjoy your day. 

You’re capable of turning a bad situation around.

Remember that bad days happen to everyone. Sometimes everything just seems to go wrong, but it doesn’t mean your whole day has to be ruined.

Take a deep breath, then use these tips to help turn your situation around and start feeling better.

Once you improve your mood and your outlook on life, nothing can stop you from having a great day.

To Your Happy And Abundance Life